Friday, June 3, 2011

Restaurant or Relationship?

One thing has been consistent in all of my research findings. The big question. “Are you willing to sacrifice your personal relationships?” I have come to understand why this question is so important. My recommendation: if you are not in a well-established relationship, don’t start one until you have made it across the finish line. By “well-established” I mean, a relationship which has already gone through several ups and downs and has survived.

Putting in the hours required to be a good chef – the hours in school, the hours of working for free (aka, Internships, which is a foreign language to your mate), and the limited time and desire you may have to invest in a relationship you may experience while focusing on the prize – will obviously take away the time and focus someone may need in the nurturing phase of a new relationship. DON’T DO IT. There will be days, sometimes weeks, when all you want is time and space alone.

Keeping my relationship together has been the most difficult part of this process so far. The bickering, arguing... you just don’t need it while you are trying to reach your dream. Unless your partner is in a similar business, s/he won’t understand what you are going through and trying to make them understand is fruitless. Your strength and determination will be tested time and time again. So, when you are faced with the big question, give it a lot of thought before answering.

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